After Seeing Their Name

Triggered By Case

Hi, I'm Gabrielle. And if you're feeling upset after saying your perpetrator's name, then this video is for you. I encourage you to listen to the entire video all the way through and then repeat it while doing the prompts. So seeing their name can be very triggering. Instantly, your brain and body is going to bring up memories, emotions, sensations, all of the above. So ask yourself the following questions to create some distance and space from yourself and the assault. You can say these out loud or you can write them down. So first, we're going to focus on time. What age were you when the assault happened and what age are you now? So you might say, "I was 22 back then, and now I'm 25." Then we're going to focus on what has changed between then and now. So you might say things like, "I've lived in two different houses" or "I bought a different car" or "I moved 2,000 miles away." Anything to help separate. Next, we're going to focus on power. What have you learned between then and now? How are you empowered? So you might say, "I've learned that it wasn't my fault. I've learned that I can ask for help, that I can set boundaries." And then next, we're going to focus on what choices you have in this situation. So you have choices of taking a pause before responding, you can communicate assertively, you can ask for a break. All of those are your empowered choices. And finally, let's focus on comfort and what can you do today to comfort yourself? Maybe you can take a hot shower or go for a long walk, call a supportive friend. And if you're still feeling triggered after saying their name, choose another video in folder one and let it support you. And until then, be well.