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How You Can Help a Loved One

If a loved one has suffered through sexual assault, they may go through a stir of emotions ranging from fear to shame, guilt or denial. Survivors need someone to be there for them.

Reassure your loved one that he or she is not alone.

A sexual assault survivor may question whether the assault was their fault and feel afraid or embarrassed to report it to authorities. But no matter what the circumstances of your loved one’s situation is, it is not their fault. There is hope and healing for any person – man, woman or child – to heal from the tragedy of sexual abuse. However, your loved one may need some help getting there.

Your Support Will Help

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You can lend invaluable support to your loved one, but it’s important to know what options are available for him or her. Help your loved one understand that there are safe places to go with their experience. Gently remind your loved one that it is okay to feel scared, but regardless of the circumstances, what happened to them is not their fault.

It’s Never the Survivor’s Fault

If your loved one was intoxicated or under the influence of drugs — or even if he or she is undocumented – it is still not their fault. If he or she feels guilty or confused about what happened and is hesitant to report it to law enforcement, the Center for Community Solutions can help your loved one receive a partial physical exam for free. The results will be reported to your loved one, whether or not they decide to go to the police.

Jessica Pride Can Help

We hope your loved one takes steps to criminally prosecute their attacker. However, even if they decide not to pursue criminal prosecution, Jessica Pride can help. Jessica has helped people just like your loved one get their power back through the civil justice system. Most are settled privately and confidentially and do not require a confrontation in court.

Contact Us

Jessica represents survivors of sexual assault throughout California and is available to assist in cases out-of-state. No matter where you live, call us with your questions or if you’d simply like someone to talk to. To learn more about how Jessica can help your loved one, please contact us today at ​(619) 516-8166.

Advice for Victims of Sexual Assault

Cases 4 Causes Podcast | S1: Episode 2

Advice for Victims of Sexual Assault

Cases 4 Causes Podcast | S1: Episode 2

Advice for Victims of Sexual Assault

Cases 4 Causes Podcast | S1: Episode 2

Podcast Transcript

Landon Harlan:
For someone that’s listening, what would you say would be your immediate advice if they’ve been a victim of sexual assault, what is it that they should do?

Jessica Pride:
I would one realize this is a confusing time and the body, when you’re in shock, you’re going, did this really just happen to me? Is this my fault? What’s going on? What do I do realize that that feeling is normal. So there are a couple things that I would advise you to do. One, preserve the evidence. Don’t take a shower, don’t pee, don’t brush your teeth and collect your clothing. Most survivors, the first thing they wanna do is wash away the memory and clean themselves, right? Because they feel gross and disgusting. And so they get in the shower, they brush their teeth, they wash the sheets, they delete the text messages. So I would say the first thing is don’t do that, preserve it all. Maybe you don’t wanna have a suit. Maybe you don’t wanna go to the police maybe, but save it in case, you know, in a couple days you decide you do wanna do something, do not delete all the text messages or the evidence.

If you are going to get a SAR exam, which is the exam where they go and they collect evidence off of your body, then you will need to do it the sooner in time after the assault the better, especially if you think that you were drugged as your body metabolizes, the drugs or the alcohol, you are losing evidence by the minute. So trying to get to the hospital as soon as possible. And actually about that in California, most people think, and especially San Diego, that you go straight to a hospital and they’re gonna do your start exam there at the hospital. Not true. The exams are actually done in special centers that specialize in SAR examinations. And so the best thing to do is actually stay home, stay home, and call the police, call the police, let them know what has happened to you.

And they will either escort you, or they will tell you where to go, because it is a special location, different on every county and go straight to the start center, take your clothes, take all the evidence. You know, if you have to pee, I mean, that’s kind of one of those interesting things, right? Does everyone have a sterile cup at home? Probably not to pee in intake with you, but just try and minimize how much food and liquids you’re drinking, ’cause you’re helping your body metabolize. And so you’re not gonna get an accurate count on if you were drugged.

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If you have been a victim of sexual assault, child sexual abuse, or workplace sexual harassment we are here to answer your questions, provide a free and confidential case evaluation, and connect you to resources. 

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