Shame Spiral Interrupt

Shame

Hi, I'm Gabrielle, and if you're stuck in a shame spiral, then this video is for you. So I encourage you to listen to the video the entire way through and then repeat it while doing the prompts. So shame tells us, "It's my fault. I should've known. I'm damaged," and other more negative thoughts. And thanks to Brené Brown's research, we know the anecdote to shame is both compassion and connection. So shame is judging our actions based on the knowledge we have today rather than the knowledge we had back then. So imagine that your best friend went through your experience. Would you tell her, "Well, it's really all your fault," or, "You should've known better"? I'm going to guess probably not. So what I invite you to do is to just put a hand on your chest and talk to yourself about the trauma as if you're talking to your best friend. "Gosh, I'm so sorry you went through this. You deserve to be loved. It wasn't your fault." Maybe even write a letter to your best friend who went through something so difficult and so challenging. Keep it and then read it to yourself. When shame returns, continue to speak to yourself through the loving and compassionate eyes of your best friend. And when you're ready, choose another video in folder one and let it support you. And until then, be well.